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I feel like I'm going crazy.
My DH and I recently had to make a very sudden move back to our home town as my father was diagnosed as terminal.
We didn't have time to look for a place (we decided to move, packed everything and moved within a week) so my MIL offered us a room until we could find somewhere else.
Five days after moving, my father passed away (about a month ago). All she has said is "its over now". Not, sorry for your loss, or are you ok? Just its over now. She has no compassion.
My DH and I are both suffering with depression and anxiety that has affected our lives in ways that are hard to cope with. Living here makes it 100x worse and yet she thinks it's a relaxing environment.
She criticises us, shames and guilts us and bitches about us to her friends behind our back. I know this because she sent a message in a group chat between my DH, her and a family friend that clearly wasn't meant to be seen by us. My DH was sleeping so hasn't seen it but I have, and I know her talkinging about him like that would kill him so now I'm stuck about what to do. Should I delete the message and pretend it was never there? Should I confront her but still delete the message? Or should I show my DH so he can finally see what a conniving witch she is? Gah, I'm so sick of dealing with this <i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i><i class="fa fa-asterisk filtered"></i> on my own.


Tell him . I had to start showing every message and put every phone call on speaker phone to prove she is the problem and to also justify why I would no longer be in her presence for any family events or holidays .

Anonymous commented 3 months ago

I hope you showed your husband the message. You do him no favours hiding the truth. However if he is not to get help with his problems and actively try to help himself don't let him hold you back from making the changes you need to become independent from this woman.

Opal commented 3 months ago

Talk to DH, share. You're in this battle together. Get out as soon as you can.

David commented 3 months ago

Just to say, I am very grateful that she's given us a roof over our heads. I'm just sick of dealing with this all on my own.
I had to attend my dads funeral on my own because DH was too ill (emotionally); he was saying how he wished he was dead a day before, and the thing that set him off was the MIL doing what she does best, being her.

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