Im so happy to find this site!! I have to tell you all, my MIL aka Hitler, is hands down, the absolute meanest woman on our planet. After some intense research, Ive discovered she is what's known as a Narcisstic Parent (oh lucky me). The relationship between her & my husband is what I call, borderline obsessive. She guilt manipulates him & has this undeniable control over him. Its the most awful thing ever. Ive tried explaining to him everything Ive discovered about her, he takes some of it in but due to how conditioned he is, he literally tunes most of it out. I REFUSED for her ro even know we were getting married, much less know the date of the wedding. No no nooooo. Wasnt happening. She has raked me over the coals with everything from how my husband & I met to how I parent my son, to making fun of me over an infedility on the part of my husband, tht happened prior to us moving in together...she even made fun of my engagement ring, comparing it to one of his fiancees from over 10 yrs ago.
My MIL is pure evil, narcissistic, cant cut the cord, manipulative, passive aggressive, plays the victim, turns EVERYTHING around to be my fault, calls me horrible names,she undermines his parental authority, has horrible melt downs when things dont go her way, never ever takes accountability for her actions (cos she never does anything wrong) Ive never been so abused by another human being. Weve been together 2.5 yrs, married 1yr 4 mo. Ive tried everything I can possibly think of to help free my husband of her clutches....now, as a last resort were in therapy. I tell my husband...In no way, upon marrying you, did I sign up for a marriage like this. I am miserable. He never defends me, stops her abuse or stands by my side...all because he feels compelled to be loyal to her...his excuse is coz his father passed away wen my husband was in his early 20's, he has regrets & states he's not gna have regrets over his momma....I am so ready to walk it just makes me wanna puke. If therapy doesnt work for us, a divorce is enivetable...I can not & will not live this way...I deserve better.