I have a silly suggestion. I assume a mother in law is more likely to be a nightmare due to boredom, especially if they are without a man. Give her some spice, make it nice ;) plenty of grumpy old men out there wandering like lost sheep without their lady. Play matchmaker, remember to be nice. This must be an act to melt their ice and bring them blinding bliss forever so you are free. Be sure to photograph and film each precious moment possible, that will keep the love birds on low chirp mode. And better to be safe than sorry, don't let them wander off without a chaperone,especially driving! They might drink at dinner then forget they did. Oh my the possibilities. We can't help it if we are concerned, loving daughters in law. It is our duty to protect our husband's mother and grandmother to your children. Of course we do really love them...its just how female relationships are when hierarchy is challenged. She's heartbroken her baby no longer needs her, replaced by us. All those years she just barges on position to take over. Take control slowly, but not with desire for power. Do so as a woman to be there for your husband when his mother no longer is. One day you will be the mother in law too. The phases life have been trying on us women through time. Only we can back each other up and be a true helping hand for another woman in distress. Lets face it, men just look at us for food, sex, laundry, secreterial duties, child rearing and nursing. Nice guys are just so because they must do so to compensate for something they feel they lack. I hope I am wrong. All I am certain of is a woman on your side is pure gold. Deny a man fallacio expect a lawsuit for anything they can set you up for. I don't know what happened but men are very emotionally sensitive yet socially restricted to express their troubles. We are all in a bell jar. The best we can do is raise our sons to know they are not lone rangers in this mad world. Just because one girl hurt them, does not mean the next will intend to. Likely that first did not as well. I doubt boys are told this. They are mommas boys for reason. They need us women. But they need to develop a new outlook to adjust to the rapidly changing socital norms. Hang in there my fellow sisters. We can straighten this out if we commit to it with patience, expanded perspective and understanding. We are the rock that keeps the household standing.
Love and support,