These stories really point out how many of us have MILs that have narcissistic personality disorder. My MIL refuses to attend graduations and birthdays of her grandchildren because she won't be the center of attention. She wants my husband to come live with her and complains that she let him go to college. She refuses to eat any food that I cook and will go into her room and eat candy instead. She has complete meltdowns when she comes to visit and demands to go home early. The best news is that after 25 years of marriage I no longer care what she thinks and I refuse to let her visit when I am home. When my husband says that her last visit "wasn't that bad" I pull up the email he sent me with all the details of her ridiculous hateful behavior. I used to think that she behaved like a two year old but after having raised two boys who never acted like the spoiled brat that she morphs into, I have zero tolerance for her ridiculousness. I am now older than she was when I married her son, so I no longer accept the argument that she is old. She actually tells my husband that we need to go to church when she is the most un-Christian like bitch imaginable who has no respect for our marriage. If I treated people the way she does I would not expect to have anyone in my life, so why should I cater to her? Stay calm, say no and stick up for yourself.